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Secrets for Squashing Your Spouse’s Infidelity Before It Starts
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By: XSTILLA.COM

Do you often wonder why some husbands cheat and others do not? Do you ever wonder how to keep your husband from cheating on you so that he doesn’t look elsewhere for his needs?  If so, you have definitely come to the right place.

Not long ago, I wondered the same thing. I was scared my husband of 15 years was cheating on me. He started taking more interest in his appearance, being more occupied, less attentive, more grumpy and dissatisfied at home, and didn’t initiate sex as much. What I soon discovered was that, he was slowly drifting away and my actions were pushing him into marriage infidelity.

Well, I changed my ways quick and my marriage improved too.

The fact of the matter is that some men cheat. Some do it well and some not so well. However, the ones that are cheating aren't doing it because they aren't getting enough love from their wives. In fact, their wives often give them plenty of love. They do it because they aren't getting enough down and dirty sex and undivided attention from their wives.

You see, men are sexual by nature. They are biologically designed to get stimulated easily. Most men get stimulated many times a day with sexual thoughts. And, when they get home to you, they want to explore those thoughts. And, if you don't explore those thoughts, they feel undesirable and are quick to wander.

Now, this isn't to say that cheating men are innocent because they aren't. Cheating is bad and there is no excuse for it but if you want to keep your man faithful then you have to give him plenty of sex and lots of variety too.

In most instances, men simply don't get emotionally connected to the other woman. They simply, hit it and quit it. There is rarely an emotional connection. They cheat, bust a few and then are done with her. The problems come however comes when your man develops a liking for the new woman, when he comes to depend on him for his sexual outlet and his emotional needs. When she strokes his ego better than you do.

So, to keep him from cheating, you must give him PLENTY of lovemaking. You must initiate it often and change things up a bit. Do your best to keep the romance fun and engaging. Introduce toys into the relationship and always take care of his intimate fantasies. This will make him feel needed and desired.

Next, you must and stroke his ego a lot. You must make your husband feel as if he is the king of the castle and the only man for you. You must compliment him often and show him how much you love and appreciate him.

Trust me, when you do this, there will be no need for him to go elsewhere. He'll have everything he wants and needs from you and will tell all those desperate women trying to seduce him to take a hike because he has the woman of his dreams waiting for him at home.

It worked for me and it can work for you too.



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Report Abuse Patti1432 July 10, 2008 at 11:28am
This article is infuriating to me. Why should a man's fidelity be in his wife's lap? I happen to know that I gave my husband FIFTEEN YEARS of my constant attention, interest, frequent & varied sex (at least 5 times a week), always asked about his day, gave him time to relax after work, cooked, cleaned and ran his home for him not to mention giong out of my way to compliment him every day. He still cheated and he did it on my birthday. Your article makes it sound like I still failed when the truth of the matter is, people cheat and it's not always about the sex. Some people just get off on lieing and being sneaky and there's no cure for that unless the cheater seeks it out.
Report Abuse ladydiva July 21, 2008 at 03:55pm
I understand your frustration with this article Patti. But all too often men do cheat for this exact reason as disgusting, and unfortunate as it is. It's animal instinct. Thank God there are still intelligent men in the world who can overcome temptation (i.e. sleezy women) and come home faithful to their wives, even if they aren't getting sex as much as they want...which seems like all the time. I'm impressed at how often you and your husband were intimate, by the way. That's VERY uncommon after 15 years of marriage.
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