My ex and I do not have a friendly relationship. I love my sons, and so does she, but that is all we have in common. I have been dealing with divorce by trying to move on, make new friends, stay up beat. She has (according to our mutual friends) spiraled to a world of darkness and has started doing hard drugs. Not the casual stuff. She doesn't ever do it in front of the kids, or else I'd take them away, but I'm scared that something's going to happen to them all the time whenever they stay with her. I don't want my sons' mom to go to jail, but I don't know what else to do? Advice?
good for you for trying to move on and stay upbeat. Double check your mutual friend's assertions with your ex...We all know how out-of-control the rumor mills can get. If she is indeed using drugs, you've got to do the right thing and turn her in.
You need to IMMEDIATELY get your X help. You guys might no longer be married, but for your kid's, yours, hers and anyone else involved safety, you've got to call someone. Try a therapist, a counselor-and the police. This is serious business and from how it seems, you'd never forgive yourself if something happened to your kids. Don't wait. Do something proactive.
Make sure that your mutual friends are correct that she is definitely using drugs. If she is, I think you need to contact the appropriate authorities and get your sons out of there before she hurts them-intentionally or not. It might be difficult to do to someone you once loved, but it's tough love and it sounds like your ex needs it.
Lay off her. Some people go through hard times and may need a vice. I think that you should give her a break. If she doesn't do it in front of the kids, what's the harm?
If you still care about your X, and it's obvious you do by the way, you need to pull her aside privately and let her know that you can blackmail the sh*t outta her and have your sons all to yourself. Scare her into choosing btw drugs and her sons. It's harsh, but it'll def. work
You absolutely cannot wait to find out what happens next. Even if she doesn't use in front of the kids, who knows if she may have left something out that one of them could get into? You'd feel incredibly guilty, and could possibly be held liable in a court of law if the judge finds out that you were aware of her drug use beforehand. If you love your boys, you'll get them out of her life.
I know the feeling. I have it with my X and Alcohol. Start by telling her if you hear of any more stories regarding her drug use, you wil report her to the authorities. Hopefully this might scare her into calming down. Sometimes the fear of losing the children is enough. If not, then report her! For the sake of the kids you have no choice. Believe me, if the situation was reversed I can promise you she would report you!
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