Ok, so every time I give my son any quality gift my eX wife ends up taking the gift from him and keeping it for herself. This is no joke! Bough the little guy a mobile phone to be able to stay in touch with me, she takes it. Bought him a laptop so he can get ahead in school, she takes it... NUTS!!!
She sounds miserable! You should pray for her and ask God to soften her greedy heart. Also, I certainly hope your son adopts your examples of generosity and compassion, because it sounds like his mother is setting a terrible example...
I would let your son know ahead of time to be excited aobut a really cool present that you've spent a lot of effort to send him and you're really excited about. Have him understand that this gift is just for him, and you're sending it because you miss him and want him to have a good time. If and when his mother takes it from him, let him come to his own conclusions about the cruelty of his mother. In time, he will begin to understand that his mother is vindicative and immature, and will respect you because you'll never even have to openly bad-mouth your ex. Give this a try.
In that case, I suggest that you only buy your son items that he can use at your house otherwise you'll just be throwing money out the window and with these economic times, that doesn't make any sense. Sorry your ex is such a pain, some women will just never learn. CRAZY!
Impossible to work things out with her on this level. She is always right and can always justify her actions. The little guy suffers while she always gets her way.
Yeah. like Ladydiva said, try talking to your ex and see if you can't rationalize with her. if not, you may have to only let him use the stuff you buy when he is with you. I know it sucks but no use buying your son stuff if she isn't going to let him use stuff.
Have you tried talking to your ex wife? Perhaps you can find out why she is sabatoging your efforts or even talk to her before you give your son a gift to see if she will approve of it beforehand. Maybe she is just "acting out" because she feels as if you don't take her feelings into consideration before you make major purchases.
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