There is this very hot guy at work that has been hitting on me for about a year now. Although I do find him extremely attractive, I haven't been paying him much attention because he's married. I recently just went through a nasty divorce myself and know how awful it is. I also know that I shouldn't even be thinking about this man in this way. However, he realy is hot and I'm lonely. Plus, in a weird twisted sort of way, I desperately want to know what it would be like to be the "other woman" for a change. I know what it is like to be the "trusting wife" who was cheated on and that role sucks.  Help talk me out of it.

Oh well you know how the old saying goes.  If you can't beat em, join em. 

My X insists on throwing our daughters huge, extravagant parties for the most meaningless of occassions.  Our youngest recently had a piano recital.  He insisted on throwing a pre-piano bash to celebrate.  I agreed to foot half the bill considering I wasn't about to miss a momentous occasion like this.

Then he wanted to throw each of them "Half-birthday parties."  You know, like 7 years and 6 months...I told him enough was enough.  He pitted my daughters against me and made me look like the bad guy.  Now I'm all for celebrating life's major events and don't mind splitting bills evenly if I think that it's important.  But he's just being excessive. 

What would u do if you got HERPES from ur man when he was cheating on you??? 

I bet someone would know what i am talking about 

Men r dirty and shouldnt be trusted.........

I just want to get away.  Escape out to the middle of tropical no where and bask in the sun, drinking cocktails complete with fruit garnishes and reading a good book.  I've often contemplated booking a cruise or vacation to a Carribean hot spot, but I always chicken out. 

I cannot handle the idea of being surrounded on my personal vaca by a bunch of lovey dovey young lovers who are so absorbed in their stupid love lives that they can't even realize how rude they're being to everyone who's on vacation strictly to forget these reasons!!

Ive been divorce a little over a year. My marriage was for 16 years we have 4 children together. Youngest 6 oldest 13.

I stayed in my marriage as long as i could for the children because i didnt believe in divorce. It wasnt a bitter divorce i gave her everything ive worked for to keep it as normal for the kids as i could. I dont love her and miss her i sometimes realize when we talk on the phone an she acts like her controlling bitchy self that ive made the right choice. She doesnt keep the kids from me i get to have them my weekend and a night during the week. Im there as much as possible to help with the kids. My problem is i never realized not being with them all the time would be so hard. I have four boys and the youngest a daughter and i always have them on my mind. Its always the worst after my weekend is up and it will be a few days til i see them again. The kids seem to be doing well and enjoy spending time with me. I find my self asking the question should i try to go back for the sake of the kids.Does this feeling of wondering what they are doing and missing them get any better ? Should i go back ?

Thanks

Hi,

I am new on these forums and hoping to get some advise. I have been separated for three years and am now divorced from my husband of 16 years. There isnt a day that goes by that I dont miss him and our life together.

We had a terrible break up and we havent talked in over a year. There is a peace bond (on him)in place so that will never be an option. He is living with someone else and I am engaged to be married next month.  Our children do not see him either so it makes it very hard on everyone. I had hoped that we could have least have stayed friendly.

I have tried to move on and Im sure he has too...but I am still grieving and sad. How long does it take??

I have so much regret.

I welcome any comments.

Thank you