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Importance of Creating Space from Your Spouse If You’re Considering a Divorce
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By: XSTILLA.COM
If you are considering a divorce, it may be time for you to take a break from the situation and give your relationship some more thought. Many couples start considering divorce at a time when they are disagreeing with their partners, arguing or in some other tense situation and this leads to impulsive thoughts. Therefore, if you’re still on the fence about whether divorce is the right choice, a brief hiatus can help put things into perspective.
Consider the story of Mary who had been married to Bob for ten years. The couple had three children and seemed to have a healthy marriage. Then, one day Mary realized that Bob was having an affair with his secretary. She was distraught, frustrated and extremely mad. Although Bob beg for forgiveness, promised to end the affair, asked for counseling, Mary couldn’t bring it to herself to forgive him. Mary still loved Bob but believed that their marriage was over. Her temper was high and her emotions were raging and she acted impulsively.
She demanded a “quickie divorce” and they were divorced within a few months. Afterwards Mary regretted the decision. She missed Bob tremendously and soon they reconciled and got remarried after repairing their tattered relationship. In this instance, a brief hiatus could have prevented Mary from acting impulsively and could have saved them the trouble of a divorce that neither one of them wanted.
So, don’t be like Mary. Take some time and discover what is best for you. Remove yourself from the situation for awhile. Once you’re on your own, really think about your relationship. Don’t pressure your spouse to come back to you during this break. Instead use this time to regroup, to think about your relationship, become intone with your feelings and evaluate your options.
For instance, you may find that a temporary separation may be all you need. Or, you may find that a more permanent or legal binding separation or divorce is the only option for you. Either way, by taking some time away, you’ll be able to get a clearer vision of your feelings and your relationship so that you can make the right decision for your particular situation.
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